What I need in this Season, Not What I Want!

Written by Kim Johnson, Author of I Am My Sister (Women helping Women) LLC @immysister.org

Sometimes the things that I think I need are not what I actually need. And sometimes I get comfortable in what I’m doing and don’t see that it is only for a season. Case in point, at my job (before I retired) I was placed in a position that I didn’t really like, but it was one of those positions where people don’t bother you and you have a lot of freedom, so I adapted.

As such, even though I didn’t like the job it became comfortable to me and I figured I could rock out with it until I retired. But as luck would have it, and as soon as I accepted my fate and got comfortable, the position was abolished and I was forced to look for another job in the company.

One of the things I learned from that experience, looking back, is that God doesn’t make NO mistakes. Who knew! God did! He knew that the job I hated so much, would be the job that would prepare me for the women’s ministry that I have right now. I needed the lessons from that season, it wasn’t what I wanted, but it was what I needed for my future.

What I’m trying to tell you is this, we may not understand what is happening in our lives at the moment, but God does, and like I said, He doesn’t make any mistakes. Everything that He does and that He allows the enemy to do, is for a purpose and for a reason.

Sometimes we have to go through a season where we are uncomfortable, and/or where there are struggles in our lives in order to remove the things from us that may be holding us back from our full potential, or simply, to arrow us in the direction God needs us to be in.

As Pastor Joel Osteen would say, “You have to be careful to not get stuck in a past season, wishing you could stay there in what you enjoyed or dwelling on pains and regrets that happened there. You have to recognize that people change, situations change, and if you don’t truly live in your present season, you’re not going to get to the new season God has for you” (Osteen, 2018).

Sister to Sister can you hear me? Are you making the most out of the season that you are in? Do you know that God has a plan for your life and that it’s all going to work out for your good?
References
Osteen, J. (2018, February 23). Times and Seasons. Retrieved from https://www.joelosteen.com/Pages/Blog.aspx?blogid=13289

Coping with Loss and Grief

Coping with Loss and Grief 

Written by Kim Johnson, Author of “I Am My Sister (Women helping Women) LLC @ immysister.org

It took me a long time to write about this subject because I wasn’t really sure how I would approach the topic. But when my friends’ mother passed, I knew I had to talk about it. Especially since I never really could cope with loss or death too well myself, and…so many of my friends are going through the same thing right now.

Losing the majority of my relatives and the loss of my husband in divorced really took a toll on me at one time. I don’t know if it had anything to do with the fact that I didn’t know the Lord as well as I do now, or I was depressed or that I simply grieve hard and long. In any event, I eventually had to seek help from professionals so that I could move on with my life and get back on track.

When I talk about loss and grief, I am talking about, “Death of a loved one, Divorce or relationship breakup, Loss of health, Losing a job, Loss of financial stability, a miscarriage, Retirement, Death of a pet, Loss of a cherished dream, A loved one’s serious illness, Loss of a friendship, Loss of safety after a trauma and Selling the family home” (Smith, Robinson, & Seagel, 2018).

Today, the death of a loved one, the loss of a relationship or any other form of loss is equally as hard for me, but the difference is, I now have the tools to cope with my grief. I understand that even though I am a Christian, I am not exempt from suffering and that I can do all thing through Christ who strengthens me. I understand that in my darkest hours I MUST lean on God heavily, and that Satan’s desire is to destroy me at all cost, even in my weakness.

“I also understand that I cannot let anyone tell me how to feel nor should you either. Your grief is your own, and no one else can tell you when it’s time to “move on” or “get over it.” Let yourself feel whatever you feel without embarrassment or judgment. It’s okay to be angry, to yell at the heavens, to cry or not to cry. It’s also okay to laugh, to find moments of joy, and to let go when you’re ready” (Smith et al., 2018).

But if you feel you cannot cope with loss or grief recognize it and reach out to a grief counselor or professional therapist or someone you trust.

Sister to Sister do you hear me? Are you suffering alone? Reach out!

 

Works Cited
Smith, M. M. (2018, July). Coping with Grief and Loss: Dealing with the Grieving Process and Learning to Heal. Retrieved from https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/coping-with-grief-and-loss.htm