Written by, Kim Johnson –Author of I Am My Sister (Women Helping Women)
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People always say “if that person walked away from you, they weren’t part of your destiny or meant to be in your life. Some even say, “You should just let them go, you’re better off without them anyway.” I’ve been thinking about these statements for some time now. I propose, what if the person who walked away, IS YOU. What if you walked away because it hurt too much to stay? What if the relationship was just one sided? Humph! Sisters, do you think you should stay in a relationship where you’re the only one that is committed to it? Or for that matter, the only one texting, calling, and reaching out? Or worst, do you think you should stay in a relationship when you don’t hear from the other person for days? Or should you stay simply, for the sake of having a mate?

Well…one thing I do know for sure, and that is, the Holy Spirit will always tell you what to do if you listen. As for me, I want what God promised. I want the whole enchilada. I want a God sent man. I know if God sent him, he will be in sync with every aspect of who I am (Elliot).

Sadly, too often we move ahead of God and His timing and end up in relationships that are not God ordained. As such, there is constant tension in the relationship and never any peace, causing even further damage to our self-esteem, along with insecurity and discouragement.

Undoubtedly, some of these relationships we shouldn’t have been in, in the first place. The bible tells us “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 4:6–7).

Basically what I am saying sisters is, we should seek God first before we jump into any relationships. We also, “must trust God completely with the entirety of our lives. God knows what is best for us, and His purpose in allowing any delays is for our good. Waiting will prepare us for a greater blessing; as well as, strengthen our faith and reliance on Him, and consequently rid us of a desire to be self-sufficient” (Stanley, Life Principles Bible, 2009).

Sister to Sister, do you hear me?  Have you made your request be known to God in what you want in a relationship?

Elliot, B. (n.d.). Dating: God’s Best or All the Rest? Retrieved February 2018, from
Stanley, C. F. (n.d.). Life Principles Bible. Philippians 4:6-7.