Walking away from Toxic Relationships

Written by – Kim L. Johnson, author of, I Am My Sister

Sometimes you just have to walk away from people. Have you ever been around a person with an argumentative spirit? They are always angry. They’re easily stressed out about one thing or another; and they totally misunderstand everything that you say to them. These people take things the wrong way all the time. You could be in a great mood and say something to them with no malice in your heart, or no other meaning other than what you are saying, and yet, they take it the wrong way. I hate to say it, but, I know one or two people like this, and I find myself not wanting to have anything to do with them. Conversations with these people mess with my spirit and peace.

I have a name for the people I described above, I call them peace stealers. These peace stealers will suck the joy out of your life and make you physically sick if you let them. You can try to explain yourself to these people, you can even try to make them calm down. You can tell them that they are going to have high blood pressure if they don’t learn to relax and let things go. You can talk, talk, and talk, until you turn blue in the face.

The thing is Sisters, sometimes you got to let these folks go. Joel Osteen, one of my favorite pastors said it best. He said, “You don’t have to cut people off entirely or never speak to them again. But you should put up some healthy boundaries. You don’t have to make a big announcement. Just little by little, spend less and less time with that person. If you don’t remove the wrong people out of your life, you’ll never meet the right ones, especially in your inner circle, the people who are closest to you. The people that surround you should be stable, consistent, happy, Godly, and responsible people who move you toward your destiny. As they say, like iron sharpens iron, you make each other better.
Moreover, we see this principle with Jesus. After a long day of teaching and praying for people, the scripture says He left the crowds and went away to rest. There were still many needy people asking for prayer. I’m sure some of them thought, “Wow, we traveled all this way, and He didn’t even wait to pray for us. He let us down.” Jesus wasn’t being rude or overlooking their needs; He was taking care of Himself. He knew He needed to get away and get quiet so He could be refreshed to be more effective.

Likewise, with you, there will always be people who need you, someone who needs rescuing, needs encouraging, or needs your help. However, if you try to meet everyone’s needs, you’ll end up run down over time, even burned out. Your number one priority is to keep yourself healthy. If Jesus was willing to walk away from needs to protect His peace and stay at rest, then we need to be willing to walk away from things that we know are stealing our peace, too!” (Osteen, 2016).


Osteen, J. (2016, May 20). Walk Away from Peace Stealers. Retrieved from https://www.joelosteen.com/Pages/Blog.aspx?blogid=11022


6 thoughts

  1. Kim, words meant for peace of mind, guidance, knowledge, and joy. It’s so true, some people will suck the energy out of you, if you let them. That’s one of my remedies ‘get rid of’ in the book. Along with others that’s similar (Smile)!!!

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  2. “The people that surround you should be stable, consistent, happy, Godly, and responsible people who move you toward your destiny.” Love this. It’s so true! Malicious negativity is so detrimental to us on every level. Thanks for posting!

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  3. You’re welcome . To God I give all the Glory.
    I find that when I release all of my concerns to God, I know He will work them out for my good. Just like I know God will do the same for you. In all things, wait on the Lord.


  4. Yes Karen, you are right. Letting go can be difficult, but if we want to be the best that we can be we must.

    We have to release those people over to God, and ask God to heal them. Luke 6:26, tells us, “Woe to you when all men speak well of you, for so did their Fathers to the false prophets.” Occasionally we need to recognize that hurting people sometimes hurt people, and we need to be brave enough and godly enough to say, this relationship or friendship isn’t helping neither of us and put an end to it.

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  5. Thanks for sharing. I need to hear this tonight. I know it was meant for me. Toxic people will be removed out of my life. I don’t even have the energy for them. May God bless and continue to allow God to use you through blogging.


  6. Well put, my sister! Peace stealers will bring us down faster than we can bring them up. It’s our responsibility to God, to take care of ourselves, so when He wants to use us, we’re ready & available!

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