IMG_0724.JPGWritten by: Kim Johnson, author of  I Am My Sister (Women helping Women)

When I was growing up, I had two best friends. We did everything together. We dressed alike, spent many long hours discussing our future and our dreams. We loved each other. There was nothing we wouldn’t do for one another. We always had each other’s back. But as we grew older our lives took us in different directions. (Sigh) I often wonder if some of the trials and tribulations that I have experienced as an adult, would have been more tolerable if my childhood friends were around to talk with.

Nevertheless, out of all the friends in my life now, there are only a few people that I allow in my inner circle, like when I was a child. It’s not that I don’t trust other people, it’s just that, I want to surround myself with likeminded people. I want to be around friends that can talk me off the ledge, and encourage me. I want friends that are not afraid to get real with me, or who will walk through the rough times with me. I need friends that will intercede (in prayer) on my behalf especially when I-am-in-my crazy, friends that are genuinely happy for me; and above all, friends that love the Lord.

Relatedly, if you look at Jesus’s life, you will see that He didn’t take His inner circle of friends lightly either. In fact, in the bible it tells us that Jesus went off into the mountains to pray to God before He chose His 12 Apostles (Luke 6:12-15). And although He shared many things with all twelve of them, there were only three that were in His inner circle, Peter, James and John. For instance, “Peter, James, and John were the only disciples allowed to accompany Jesus when He raised the daughter of Jairus, from the dead (Mark 5:37). And on the mountain where Christ was transfigured in the presence of Moses and Elijah, none of the apostles was invited to witness the glorious event except Peter, James, and John (Mark 9:2). And in the Garden of Gethsemane, not long before His arrest, and eventual execution, the Lord selected only Peter, James, and John to accompany him to a solitary place for prayer, Mark 14:32-35” (Moore, 2012).

In any case, I’m not too sure why Jesus choose those three apostles to go certain places with Him and not the others; but what I can see is, that Jesus definitely had an inner circle.

Basically, what I am saying to you is, be careful of who you allow in your inner circle. Not every one of your acquaintances should be allowed to know all of your business. Not everyone is for you. Not everyone can handle your most intimate thoughts. And not everyone is walking the same walk as you. You need friends that have faith in you, and that you can tell anything to.

Sister to Sister do you hear me? Do you have a friend that you can share everything with?


Moore, K. L. (2012, December 23). Christ’s “Inner Circle”. Retrieved from
Stanley, C. F. (2009). Life Principles Bible. La Habra: Thomas Nelson.