Sometimes You Have to Say “NO”

Written by Kim L. Johnson – 12/06/2021

Since I am at home all the time, retired, people assume that I have NOTHING to do, and that I’m not busy. Have you ever noticed that no matter how you tell people you cannot help them, because you are busy, that they will catch an attitude with you, talk about you and not value your time? These people think that what they need from you, is more important than what you are doing at that moment. Well, I get that all the time, I find it to be extremely funny though, and not funny in a ha-ha kind of way either.

In any event, I had to teach myself to say “NO!” because I value my time and my health, contrary to what others may think. I am busy doing me! I am a full time PhD student, a faith writer at I Am My Sister (Women helping Women), a blogger, a social media “daily” poster for my best friend’s cosmetic line, I am the Church Administrator, Head Trustee and Minister for The Lord’s House of Deliverance Baptist Church, not to mention a parent and grandmother.

It’s not that I don’t want to be available, it’s just that I have learned to prioritize myself so that I can stay true to myself, my assignment and maintain healthy boundaries. My “people pleasing” days are over.

Brothers and Sisters, it is important to set boundaries for yourself. By saying “No” it helps you to maintain healthy relationships with others, people know where you are coming from, you feel less stress and anxiety, you never have to regret saying yes and feeling resentful, and people will respect your “Yes” in the future.

Brothers and Sister’s do you hear me? Have you learned to say NO?

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